Don't rely on someone else for your happiness and self worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can't love and respect yourself - no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are - completely; the good and the bad - and make changes as YOU see fit - not because you think someone else wants you to be different - Stacey Charter
Being different isn't bad; as long as you are doing it for you. As women, we are constantly conforming to fit something; which can be a reasonable compromise, depending on the situation. But if you are consistently giving away what makes you you, just to please someone else.....not only does that disrespect you as a woman but it also dishonors you as a human being.
Be smart about your adjustments :)
2/28/13
2/27/13
Living
When you do nothing, you feel overwhelmed and powerless. But when you get involved, you feel the sense of hope and accomplishment that comes from knowing you are working to make things better - Anonymous
Maybe the reason you feel so empty is because you've sort of put your life on hold. You don't do much anymore, and you kind of just go day in day out with no drive or motivation.
This is a scary place to be because without a reason to live, or some motivation; you will find yourself on the edge of loneliness and depression.
Don't let it get to this!
Re-evaluate where you are, check-in with your spirit man, bring back to the surface those things that you once desired and after you've re-met your old self that once had dreams and aspirations..... Go for it!
It's a new day!
Maybe the reason you feel so empty is because you've sort of put your life on hold. You don't do much anymore, and you kind of just go day in day out with no drive or motivation.
This is a scary place to be because without a reason to live, or some motivation; you will find yourself on the edge of loneliness and depression.
Don't let it get to this!
Re-evaluate where you are, check-in with your spirit man, bring back to the surface those things that you once desired and after you've re-met your old self that once had dreams and aspirations..... Go for it!
It's a new day!
2/26/13
Lies
A lie may take care of the present, but it has no future. ~Author Unknown
We tell lies when we are afraid... afraid of what we don't know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us.
But know that every time we tell a lie, we feed into whatever it is that we fear .... We make it grow stronger.
And the crazier side of lying is that once you tell that lie; you end up spending the rest of your life paying for it; so you keep defending it. It's very addicting and only leads to an empty future.
Don't be that person that can never be trusted. Don't sell your sense of trust to the world of lies.
Get over your fears and start living...
We tell lies when we are afraid... afraid of what we don't know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us.
But know that every time we tell a lie, we feed into whatever it is that we fear .... We make it grow stronger.
And the crazier side of lying is that once you tell that lie; you end up spending the rest of your life paying for it; so you keep defending it. It's very addicting and only leads to an empty future.
Don't be that person that can never be trusted. Don't sell your sense of trust to the world of lies.
Get over your fears and start living...
2/24/13
Loss?
Stop looking at what you have lost, so you can see what you have.
Loss isn't easy. Because when you lose something, your mind automatically shifts into a place where you blame yourself (or come real close) for letting that thing or someone slip away.
There are some things, yes, that you could have done better but then there are others that you absolutely have NO control over.
So if you are about to lose something and you can feel it slipping away, and you know it's better for you if it's gone....then, by all means and for the sake of your sanity - gladly say goodbye. But if you have lost something or someone and you didn't have full control while you had it, then you certainly cannot do anything about it now that it's no longer in your possession.
However, the trick with loss is that if you aren't careful, you'll spend a whole lot of time in mourning and hardly anytime in living.
It is absolutely okay to have a grieving period, but as my husband will say "determine in your heart how long you will be in that timeframe. Because when that time comes, crying is over and real life begins"!
Don't get lost in loss; live fully with what you do have. Everything and everyone around you is counting on you ;). YOU are counting on you!
Loss isn't easy. Because when you lose something, your mind automatically shifts into a place where you blame yourself (or come real close) for letting that thing or someone slip away.
There are some things, yes, that you could have done better but then there are others that you absolutely have NO control over.
So if you are about to lose something and you can feel it slipping away, and you know it's better for you if it's gone....then, by all means and for the sake of your sanity - gladly say goodbye. But if you have lost something or someone and you didn't have full control while you had it, then you certainly cannot do anything about it now that it's no longer in your possession.
However, the trick with loss is that if you aren't careful, you'll spend a whole lot of time in mourning and hardly anytime in living.
It is absolutely okay to have a grieving period, but as my husband will say "determine in your heart how long you will be in that timeframe. Because when that time comes, crying is over and real life begins"!
Don't get lost in loss; live fully with what you do have. Everything and everyone around you is counting on you ;). YOU are counting on you!
2/23/13
New ideas
I can't understand why people are frightened of new ideas. I'm frightened of the old ones - John CageB
New ideas come with new responsibilities, accountabilities and expectations.
It's only human to want to keep trying to achieve the same results. The problem with that is...the method we are using may not be working. And it takes a couple of failures to figure that out. Or at least, that's all it should take.
At some point, you have to be willing to throw out the old formula, develop a new strategy and change the approach.
Don't allow the possibility of change to scare you. It might be just what you need to get moving.
Have a great day!
New ideas come with new responsibilities, accountabilities and expectations.
It's only human to want to keep trying to achieve the same results. The problem with that is...the method we are using may not be working. And it takes a couple of failures to figure that out. Or at least, that's all it should take.
At some point, you have to be willing to throw out the old formula, develop a new strategy and change the approach.
Don't allow the possibility of change to scare you. It might be just what you need to get moving.
Have a great day!
2/22/13
Life
You got to take the good with the bad; smile when you are sad; love what you got and remember what you had. Always forgive but never forget, learn from your mistakes but never regret. People change and things go wrong but things happens and life goes on...
- a wise person
It's not worth it taking all the baggage with you through life. At some point, you have to let it go and move on!
Happy Friday!
- a wise person
It's not worth it taking all the baggage with you through life. At some point, you have to let it go and move on!
Happy Friday!
2/20/13
Friendship
Don't flatter yourself that friendship authorizes you to say disagreeable things to your peers. The closer you come into relationship with another person, the more necessary do tact and courtesy become. Except in cases of necessity, which are rare. Do not leave your friend to learn unpleasant things from their enemies; as they are sure ready to tell them - Oliver Wendall Holmes Jr
As friends, we are permitted to "tell the truth", yes; but some of us do take it to another level. We do it as a sense of entitlement....where we feel it is our right to intrude, disrespect a friends' emotions and violate their boundaries.
Sometimes, we don't need to say anything at all but step back, pray for them (Uhm, that still works by the way), and love them still!
There is no manual anywhere that says we are the voice of reason over them. That's God's job....
We always need to be careful how we relate messages to others because obviously their emotions are 100% involved and what, how and when we say whatever we say can either strengthen them or completely damage them. Your "truthful" statement can quickly go from a caring place to a fixing place, if not done right.
Be delicate with your friends; they will not only respect you but love you for it.
As friends, we are permitted to "tell the truth", yes; but some of us do take it to another level. We do it as a sense of entitlement....where we feel it is our right to intrude, disrespect a friends' emotions and violate their boundaries.
Sometimes, we don't need to say anything at all but step back, pray for them (Uhm, that still works by the way), and love them still!
There is no manual anywhere that says we are the voice of reason over them. That's God's job....
We always need to be careful how we relate messages to others because obviously their emotions are 100% involved and what, how and when we say whatever we say can either strengthen them or completely damage them. Your "truthful" statement can quickly go from a caring place to a fixing place, if not done right.
Be delicate with your friends; they will not only respect you but love you for it.
2/18/13
Priorities
If you know that you have a certain amount of commitments coming up within a time frame, it's really a matter of sitting down for a few minutes and prioritizing your time -Anne Lang
If we all had that magic wand (that none of us seem to find ;) ), we wouldn't need to put any energy into getting anything done. All it'll take would be a quick wave of the wand and voila....the job is done!
With each item on your list, and every task that you have going; you must prioritize its deliverable and attack its deadline with time management. It's the only way anything gets done! There isn't any special method out there, or any exceptional skill to be had....it all takes time, every single moment of it.
Now, because you know that this task must get done, and there is an expectation that lies upon you; how you manage your time, gather your resources, become/remain flexible and ready for any last minute changes, will determine the tenacity in which you will deliver!
If we all had that magic wand (that none of us seem to find ;) ), we wouldn't need to put any energy into getting anything done. All it'll take would be a quick wave of the wand and voila....the job is done!
With each item on your list, and every task that you have going; you must prioritize its deliverable and attack its deadline with time management. It's the only way anything gets done! There isn't any special method out there, or any exceptional skill to be had....it all takes time, every single moment of it.
Now, because you know that this task must get done, and there is an expectation that lies upon you; how you manage your time, gather your resources, become/remain flexible and ready for any last minute changes, will determine the tenacity in which you will deliver!
Today
Everything you do prepares you for the next thing – John Abel
Each step takes you closer and closer to your goals. This is why it is important to choose wisely what each moment will represent and eventually manifest into.
It's doing the little things right that keeps this promise! Each challenge is a test for the next blessing. Your attitude on what happens today will determine your character on what tomorrow brings,
Also, as you align your present moment, your future will begin to look much more organized.
Remember, little by little, line upon line, moment by moment, day by day; and it all adds up!
Happy Monday!
Each step takes you closer and closer to your goals. This is why it is important to choose wisely what each moment will represent and eventually manifest into.
It's doing the little things right that keeps this promise! Each challenge is a test for the next blessing. Your attitude on what happens today will determine your character on what tomorrow brings,
Also, as you align your present moment, your future will begin to look much more organized.
Remember, little by little, line upon line, moment by moment, day by day; and it all adds up!
Happy Monday!
2/16/13
Listen
Hear much and say little - Old Irish saying
There are a few people that do not fit into this category:
1) the ones who cannot wait for you to finish talking so they can tell you what you need to do
2) the ones who love the sound of their own voices and enjoy hearing themselves talk
3) the ones too busy in their own worlds that whenever they do come out and interact with someone else, it's all about them
It's amazing how much you can learn from just talking to someone and not talking at all. If you just learn to keep your mouth closed and your ears open, you can even pick up on the verbal and non-verbal communication.
Listening is an important attribute to learn and practice. Not only does it show that you are giving your undivided attention; it also shows that you care enough about them.
Happy Saturday!
There are a few people that do not fit into this category:
1) the ones who cannot wait for you to finish talking so they can tell you what you need to do
2) the ones who love the sound of their own voices and enjoy hearing themselves talk
3) the ones too busy in their own worlds that whenever they do come out and interact with someone else, it's all about them
It's amazing how much you can learn from just talking to someone and not talking at all. If you just learn to keep your mouth closed and your ears open, you can even pick up on the verbal and non-verbal communication.
Listening is an important attribute to learn and practice. Not only does it show that you are giving your undivided attention; it also shows that you care enough about them.
Happy Saturday!
2/14/13
Be encouraging
The spirited horse, which will try to win the race of its own accord, will run even faster if encouraged - Ovid
it's amazing what can happen if we just believed in ourselves, saw the best in others and helped people excel in their areas of expertise.
As much as some of us try not to get someone else's opinion on what we need to do; we have to admit that there comes a time when we need a little push, a little go-get-them word of encouragement.
And then for those of us who don't have it all together and have about a million things we do want to do; I encourage you to start narrowing it down by expectations and timelines and surround yourself with people that will help you excel.
Sometimes the idea is hanging in your creative world, waiting for a motivating word to jump start the whole process.
You can do it! Run fast, get it done!
Happy Friday!
it's amazing what can happen if we just believed in ourselves, saw the best in others and helped people excel in their areas of expertise.
As much as some of us try not to get someone else's opinion on what we need to do; we have to admit that there comes a time when we need a little push, a little go-get-them word of encouragement.
And then for those of us who don't have it all together and have about a million things we do want to do; I encourage you to start narrowing it down by expectations and timelines and surround yourself with people that will help you excel.
Sometimes the idea is hanging in your creative world, waiting for a motivating word to jump start the whole process.
You can do it! Run fast, get it done!
Happy Friday!
Feelings
Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth - Benjamin Disraeli
The only reason you are saying anything about how you feel is because that IS how you feel. You cannot feel bad for feeling. You shouldn't!
But what you can feel bad for is how you express them.
Feelings are 100% real....that's why they exist. Anyone who wants to make you un-feel isn't doing you justice. And that includes you too!
No matter what, never deprive yourself of fully expressing your emotions. Don't suppress it. Don't ignore it. Because guess what, the more you pretend that it isn't there or the more you allow others to push play, pause and stop on YOUR emotions; the scarier it will eventually manifest. Yes, one day it will... 😳
Happy Thursday!
The only reason you are saying anything about how you feel is because that IS how you feel. You cannot feel bad for feeling. You shouldn't!
But what you can feel bad for is how you express them.
Feelings are 100% real....that's why they exist. Anyone who wants to make you un-feel isn't doing you justice. And that includes you too!
No matter what, never deprive yourself of fully expressing your emotions. Don't suppress it. Don't ignore it. Because guess what, the more you pretend that it isn't there or the more you allow others to push play, pause and stop on YOUR emotions; the scarier it will eventually manifest. Yes, one day it will... 😳
Happy Thursday!
2/13/13
The big person
He who forgives ends the quarrel - Anonymous
Have you ever gotten in an argument with someone and not only can that person never be wrong but they also don't believe in listening! They do all the yelling, cussing, screaming, accusing, etc and you can't even get a single word in!
We hear it all the time; be the bigger person.....be the bigger person! And then you do it and your fighting partner uses that chance to conclude that you are weak and not strong enough to handle a fight.
You, who is smarter and the bigger
person gets the advantage. Yes you do! When you walk away from a quarrel or hold your tongue during one; it shows your level of responsibility and maturity.... And you get to walk away with your peace of mind. Think about it. You don't have to do damage control because you didn't say much. You don't have to have another conversation about the last one because there was nothing said that you regret saying.
But what you will be held accountable for is forgiving what comes out of the other persons mouth. Yes, that's part of being the bigger person. Tough one....I know!
Enjoy your Wednesday :)
Have you ever gotten in an argument with someone and not only can that person never be wrong but they also don't believe in listening! They do all the yelling, cussing, screaming, accusing, etc and you can't even get a single word in!
We hear it all the time; be the bigger person.....be the bigger person! And then you do it and your fighting partner uses that chance to conclude that you are weak and not strong enough to handle a fight.
You, who is smarter and the bigger
person gets the advantage. Yes you do! When you walk away from a quarrel or hold your tongue during one; it shows your level of responsibility and maturity.... And you get to walk away with your peace of mind. Think about it. You don't have to do damage control because you didn't say much. You don't have to have another conversation about the last one because there was nothing said that you regret saying.
But what you will be held accountable for is forgiving what comes out of the other persons mouth. Yes, that's part of being the bigger person. Tough one....I know!
Enjoy your Wednesday :)
2/12/13
Execution
All the ways of a man are clean in his own eyes; but the Lord weigheth the spirits. (Proverbs 16:2 KJV)
Everything we desire, every plan we come up with, every decision we land on, every idea that comes to mind - is all perfectly orchestrated and completely perfect by US.
As great as the plan may be and/or manifest, no one else will really know the intentions behind it.
There are different reasons why we do what we do. What motivates you? Where do you get your drive from? And who and where do you get counsel from before you execute a plan?
Whatever propels you, God will weigh it. You may be able to get away with the wrong intention/right plan in the natural but God knows all your thoughts before they even become actions.
The better way of going about getting things done is to put it before God first, allow Him to weigh it, walk you through it, give wisdom..... and it'll execute perfectly.
No more me-only-lens!
Happy Tuesday!
Everything we desire, every plan we come up with, every decision we land on, every idea that comes to mind - is all perfectly orchestrated and completely perfect by US.
As great as the plan may be and/or manifest, no one else will really know the intentions behind it.
There are different reasons why we do what we do. What motivates you? Where do you get your drive from? And who and where do you get counsel from before you execute a plan?
Whatever propels you, God will weigh it. You may be able to get away with the wrong intention/right plan in the natural but God knows all your thoughts before they even become actions.
The better way of going about getting things done is to put it before God first, allow Him to weigh it, walk you through it, give wisdom..... and it'll execute perfectly.
No more me-only-lens!
Happy Tuesday!
2/10/13
Relationships
What would happen if we woke up every morning with the intention of blessing others? How do you make, build on and maintain healthy relationships around you? What is your strategy in reaching out to others that you may not know or understand?
Three principles ----- responsibility, sensitivity and desire.
If we can practice these three things, we will be able to appreciate people for exactly who they are, and people will appreciate the things that God has placed specially in you.
Every day we attempt to explore into a new friendship or adventure but we often go into them with the absolute wrong intentions, completely skewed perspectives and really tainted ideas. We do this because it's easier to control how long, how deep and how far we invest in others.
But if we can follow these principles: responsibility (learning to follow-through), sensitivity (being able to discern and respond properly), and desire (be passionate about what you are doing); then I believe we will be able to make more relationships stand strong!
Happy Monday!
Three principles ----- responsibility, sensitivity and desire.
If we can practice these three things, we will be able to appreciate people for exactly who they are, and people will appreciate the things that God has placed specially in you.
Every day we attempt to explore into a new friendship or adventure but we often go into them with the absolute wrong intentions, completely skewed perspectives and really tainted ideas. We do this because it's easier to control how long, how deep and how far we invest in others.
But if we can follow these principles: responsibility (learning to follow-through), sensitivity (being able to discern and respond properly), and desire (be passionate about what you are doing); then I believe we will be able to make more relationships stand strong!
Happy Monday!
Hello world!
What we have done for ourselves alone dies with us; what we have done for others and the world remains and is immortal - Albert Camus
I am convinced that those of us who prefer to be alone do this for a few reasons. 1: we rather not be bothered or distracted by people and their problems, 2: we are afraid of being discovered for who really are, so we hide behind an unfriendly face that we put on often 3: others' opinions don't mean much to us, so really, they can keep it moving 4: no one else shares the same interests we do, so why even bother and 5: investing in someone else takes too much time and we rather use that time for our own interests.
Sound familiar, anyone ?
Hanging solo isn't wrong but depriving others of sharing your world with you is somewhat selfish. There are life lessons, ideas and plans that you have that others can and will gain from .... And vice versa!
You want to be remembered by the great things you have going, and the impact you have made in peoples' lives.
As much as you don't care about this; it's important to be selfless once in a while.
Allow the world to meet you :) and allow yourself to meet and build on new meaningful friendships as well.
Happy Sunday!
I am convinced that those of us who prefer to be alone do this for a few reasons. 1: we rather not be bothered or distracted by people and their problems, 2: we are afraid of being discovered for who really are, so we hide behind an unfriendly face that we put on often 3: others' opinions don't mean much to us, so really, they can keep it moving 4: no one else shares the same interests we do, so why even bother and 5: investing in someone else takes too much time and we rather use that time for our own interests.
Sound familiar, anyone ?
Hanging solo isn't wrong but depriving others of sharing your world with you is somewhat selfish. There are life lessons, ideas and plans that you have that others can and will gain from .... And vice versa!
You want to be remembered by the great things you have going, and the impact you have made in peoples' lives.
As much as you don't care about this; it's important to be selfless once in a while.
Allow the world to meet you :) and allow yourself to meet and build on new meaningful friendships as well.
Happy Sunday!
2/9/13
Free
Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow - Helen Keller
Keep your eyes on the Lord and you won't see the demons that keep chasing you down.
We have all gone through things and had to face the consequences of them. For some of us, it seems as if we are still paying the debt.
I've got news for you.... A lot of that debt that we keep paying hasn't been a part of the bill for years. Guilt, shame, fear, and abuse has somehow made us feel that we are still under oppression and freedom isn't any day near.
At some point friends, we have to snap out of it and realize that there are some things that we can take care of; and there are others that are not even our problem to fix or change.
You have done all you can! Don't let the past and it's oppressive ways keep dragging you down into its hell-ish hole.
YOU ARE MORE THAN A CONQUEROR in Christ Jesus!
Have a free ☺ day today!
Keep your eyes on the Lord and you won't see the demons that keep chasing you down.
We have all gone through things and had to face the consequences of them. For some of us, it seems as if we are still paying the debt.
I've got news for you.... A lot of that debt that we keep paying hasn't been a part of the bill for years. Guilt, shame, fear, and abuse has somehow made us feel that we are still under oppression and freedom isn't any day near.
At some point friends, we have to snap out of it and realize that there are some things that we can take care of; and there are others that are not even our problem to fix or change.
You have done all you can! Don't let the past and it's oppressive ways keep dragging you down into its hell-ish hole.
YOU ARE MORE THAN A CONQUEROR in Christ Jesus!
Have a free ☺ day today!
2/8/13
Learning
Never let your persistence and passion turn into stubbornness and ignorance - Anthony J. D'Angelo
For example, in anything you pursue in life, you will come upon some kind or kinds of opposition. It's how you deal with them that matters. What you may want to do may truly be good and productive but the way you may be going about it might not be. Anyone around you could pick this up and give you some counsel in a different approach. How would you take the criticism?
It also may be a new area of adventure for you and people around you that have walked the same path and taken the same routes may advise you otherwise due to experience. What would you do with that information?
Some criticisms come harshly, some come constructively, and a lot do come with a bit of anger and jealousy. However, it is up to you to "take the meat and leave the bones".
Every now and then, we all need a little bit of a reality check that brings us to a humbling moment; and this is one way it's accomplished.
Don't let "me, myself and I" get in the way of your learning life lessons.
Enjoy your Friday good people!
For example, in anything you pursue in life, you will come upon some kind or kinds of opposition. It's how you deal with them that matters. What you may want to do may truly be good and productive but the way you may be going about it might not be. Anyone around you could pick this up and give you some counsel in a different approach. How would you take the criticism?
It also may be a new area of adventure for you and people around you that have walked the same path and taken the same routes may advise you otherwise due to experience. What would you do with that information?
Some criticisms come harshly, some come constructively, and a lot do come with a bit of anger and jealousy. However, it is up to you to "take the meat and leave the bones".
Every now and then, we all need a little bit of a reality check that brings us to a humbling moment; and this is one way it's accomplished.
Don't let "me, myself and I" get in the way of your learning life lessons.
Enjoy your Friday good people!
2/7/13
Hope and Have
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for - Epictetus
It's like what we have is never enough. We spend a whole lot of time wishing, hoping, wanting and desiring something else when what we have is way beyond great and is desiring, wanting and hoping for some of that attention.
This is a very dangerous place to be, friends. Many of us have made the wrong decisions, taken the wrong moves, said the wrong things, taken the wrong job, left the right relationship, gone into the wrong one.... and on and on; simply because we can't seem to see and love well what is within, around us, before us and for us.
We need to be careful; one wrong move can take you 10 years behind in EVERYTHING!
Start appreciating what you have. Put all your attention into what's before you. Stop coveting.... It never ends smoothly!
Happy Thursday!
It's like what we have is never enough. We spend a whole lot of time wishing, hoping, wanting and desiring something else when what we have is way beyond great and is desiring, wanting and hoping for some of that attention.
This is a very dangerous place to be, friends. Many of us have made the wrong decisions, taken the wrong moves, said the wrong things, taken the wrong job, left the right relationship, gone into the wrong one.... and on and on; simply because we can't seem to see and love well what is within, around us, before us and for us.
We need to be careful; one wrong move can take you 10 years behind in EVERYTHING!
Start appreciating what you have. Put all your attention into what's before you. Stop coveting.... It never ends smoothly!
Happy Thursday!
2/6/13
Courtesy
Nothing is ever lost by courtesy. It is the cheapest of the pleasures that costs nothing and conveys much. It pleases the one who gives and the one who receives, and thus, like mercy, it is twice blessed - Eratus Wiman
Being nice and polite to someone is evidence that you are a nice citizen of the world. It's all about the more you give - a selfless attitude.
To be gracious and courteous to a stranger, shows that you are connected to others around you and you are not emotionally on vacation on some island cut off from the rest of the world.
Remember that anything you do that causes you to step out of your self and do for someone else, think of another person, put other people before you is just another human act that creates more room for your blessings to come in.
It's just the way it works.
Happy Wednesday!
Being nice and polite to someone is evidence that you are a nice citizen of the world. It's all about the more you give - a selfless attitude.
To be gracious and courteous to a stranger, shows that you are connected to others around you and you are not emotionally on vacation on some island cut off from the rest of the world.
Remember that anything you do that causes you to step out of your self and do for someone else, think of another person, put other people before you is just another human act that creates more room for your blessings to come in.
It's just the way it works.
Happy Wednesday!
2/5/13
Relationships
Don’t settle for a relationship that won’t let you be yourself - Oprah Winfrey
This isn't just about a romantic relationship. This is about all kinds of relationships; friends, sibling relationships, parent-child relationships, work-related relationships etc..... If you always have to pretend to be someone else for the sake of being accepted or for status quo, not only will it be a really bad not-so-honest commitment of a relationship, it also leaves a huge opportunity for abuse, misuse and distrust.
Don’t sacrifice yourself all in the name of wanting to be loved and accepted, because if you sacrifice too much there will come a day when you will have nothing else that you will be able to give.
Relationships do not need promises, terms, and conditions. It just needs two wonderful people, who can trust, love, care for, think about and can understand each other.
Anything less or more than this is not the right relationship for you.
Happy Tuesday!
This isn't just about a romantic relationship. This is about all kinds of relationships; friends, sibling relationships, parent-child relationships, work-related relationships etc..... If you always have to pretend to be someone else for the sake of being accepted or for status quo, not only will it be a really bad not-so-honest commitment of a relationship, it also leaves a huge opportunity for abuse, misuse and distrust.
Don’t sacrifice yourself all in the name of wanting to be loved and accepted, because if you sacrifice too much there will come a day when you will have nothing else that you will be able to give.
Relationships do not need promises, terms, and conditions. It just needs two wonderful people, who can trust, love, care for, think about and can understand each other.
Anything less or more than this is not the right relationship for you.
Happy Tuesday!
2/4/13
Living
Life is the continuous adjustment of internal relations to external relations - Herbert Spencer
It's Monday!
Another day to marry your emotions with your outward realities. This is part of life and living. Things will always happen and people will always be there to make sure of it. It's how you respond AND react that counts!
Your outward reaction is a clear manifestation of your inner feelings. It's important that you process your emotions always before it starts acting out without your consent.
So wherever you are, whatever you face and with whomever you face it with; remember to stick to the plan.
It's Monday!
Another day to marry your emotions with your outward realities. This is part of life and living. Things will always happen and people will always be there to make sure of it. It's how you respond AND react that counts!
Your outward reaction is a clear manifestation of your inner feelings. It's important that you process your emotions always before it starts acting out without your consent.
So wherever you are, whatever you face and with whomever you face it with; remember to stick to the plan.
2/3/13
Faith
To one who has faith, no explanation is necessary. To one without faith, no explanation is possible - St. Thomas Aquinas
Faith is putting hope and power into that which we can not see now...but know we will see in the future.
To one who doesn't understand or has experienced this, it's very difficult to make this real for them.
To you who is familiar with how God makes miracles happen, and how great God's promises are, and how faithful God has been over your life, do not hesitate to keep practicing faith.
The more you keep it real for you, the sooner it'll become more and more real to the ones who are skeptical.
Happy Sunday!
2/2/13
Dreams
Anyone can dabble, but once you've made that commitment, your blood has that particular thing in it, and it's very hard for people to stop you — Bill Cosby
Think about something that you really want to do. This can be a really good idea or an extremely bad move.
However, know that the moment you stop dancing around the idea and actually set a decision to it, it'll take off into fruition. You will also find that there isn't much that anyone can say that will stop you. You may slow down but that's about it; especially if its a longtime aspiration.
Be careful though, where your thoughts and ideas lie. If you are dabbling with a bad idea, it may not help you well in the future if you decide to decide on it.
But if it's a positive decision, you'll start to see your dreams come to life the minute you put fuel behind it.
Think wisely, choose wisely, live well.
Happy Saturday!
Think about something that you really want to do. This can be a really good idea or an extremely bad move.
However, know that the moment you stop dancing around the idea and actually set a decision to it, it'll take off into fruition. You will also find that there isn't much that anyone can say that will stop you. You may slow down but that's about it; especially if its a longtime aspiration.
Be careful though, where your thoughts and ideas lie. If you are dabbling with a bad idea, it may not help you well in the future if you decide to decide on it.
But if it's a positive decision, you'll start to see your dreams come to life the minute you put fuel behind it.
Think wisely, choose wisely, live well.
Happy Saturday!
2/1/13
Paranoia
Paranoia is the delusion that your enemies are organized
- Arthur D. Hlavaty
If you know someone who suffers from paranoia, you know that they are always on the edge; and always thinking something is going to go wrong any minute now.
It's a real reality for them.
It takes a lot to get them to come out of that mindset. It takes a lot of trying and trying from you and a lot of uncertainty and anxiety from them.
Be patient with them, pray for them, keep making them feel safe, stay close. You do this and you'll begin to see the change happen for them. Slowly and surely, that cloud of fear, anxiety, discomfort, unrest, and death will begin to wear off. You'll see!
A good friday to you.
- Arthur D. Hlavaty
If you know someone who suffers from paranoia, you know that they are always on the edge; and always thinking something is going to go wrong any minute now.
It's a real reality for them.
It takes a lot to get them to come out of that mindset. It takes a lot of trying and trying from you and a lot of uncertainty and anxiety from them.
Be patient with them, pray for them, keep making them feel safe, stay close. You do this and you'll begin to see the change happen for them. Slowly and surely, that cloud of fear, anxiety, discomfort, unrest, and death will begin to wear off. You'll see!
A good friday to you.
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