If a person wants to be a part of your life, they will make an obvious effort to do so. Think twice before reserving a space in your heart for people who do not make an effort to stay.
While this might be true, friendships do not always start this way but some do end up this way, unfortunately.
I am a firm believer of maintaining relationships the best you can. Whether via phone, text, call, email or pictures; it is important to always put an effort in keeping your relationships alive and healthy. This also depends on the type of relationship too; because not all demand or need a constant checking-in. And there are some that will fall apart if a daily or every other day check-in is ignored.
But, if circumstances challenge the strength of your relationship with another friend, it's important to try to see if it's salvageable. If it is, I'm sure that it'll be with some boundaries; and if it's not, then it'll be with some emotional heartache and break-up.
No matter where you find yourself in the nature of your relationships, remember to take the best part of it and try to forget the worst part of it. Don't let the pain of the bad days ruin the memories of the great days you had.
Happy Thursday!
1/31/13
1/30/13
Revenge
If I were going to set out to oppress other people, I would surely prefer to select for my victims persons whose first response is forgiveness rather than persons whose first response is revenge - Jeffrey G. Murphy
Though it's much more fun to return the favor and more to someone who has treated you badly; it really doesn't ever feel like its enough. You always want to do more to get them back for what they did; especially when the other person doesn't show any sign of pain or even remorse.
That's because there is nothing you can do to make an evil person realize how evil they are. You can never inflict enough pain on them. You just can't....
BUT what they aren't expecting from you is pure forgiveness. You start forgiving, you start letting go and letting God, you start thinking of them less and the chains start breaking!
Quit giving the wicked your time and emotions. Disconnect yourself from the hold they once had on you, live your life in freedom and let them suffer in their evil ways! You don't have time for that! :)
Happy Wednesday!
Though it's much more fun to return the favor and more to someone who has treated you badly; it really doesn't ever feel like its enough. You always want to do more to get them back for what they did; especially when the other person doesn't show any sign of pain or even remorse.
That's because there is nothing you can do to make an evil person realize how evil they are. You can never inflict enough pain on them. You just can't....
BUT what they aren't expecting from you is pure forgiveness. You start forgiving, you start letting go and letting God, you start thinking of them less and the chains start breaking!
Quit giving the wicked your time and emotions. Disconnect yourself from the hold they once had on you, live your life in freedom and let them suffer in their evil ways! You don't have time for that! :)
Happy Wednesday!
1/29/13
Example
It is not our business to make the message acceptable, but to make it available. We are not to see that they like it, but that they get it - Dr. Vance Havner
While this sounds harsh, it's absolutely true!
Take the gospel for example. We spend a lot of time watering down the good news because we want it to be easy, quick, comfortable. Though it is the best decision to make, it also comes with a great conviction.
It is our job and responsibility to present it as it really is.
We try so hard to get people to get it, get saved, come to the Lord... But we forget to live out what we want them to come into. We may not realize it, but they are watching closely at our lives and the example we are.
If we are going to talk about how good God is, then let's really live like that. Let's start exercising the attributes of who our Father really is. Loving, kind, merciful, gracious, just, wise, caring etc.
Make the gospel available, challenge others, keep the door open, be a great example, and watch people follow you in :)
Happy Tuesday!
While this sounds harsh, it's absolutely true!
Take the gospel for example. We spend a lot of time watering down the good news because we want it to be easy, quick, comfortable. Though it is the best decision to make, it also comes with a great conviction.
It is our job and responsibility to present it as it really is.
We try so hard to get people to get it, get saved, come to the Lord... But we forget to live out what we want them to come into. We may not realize it, but they are watching closely at our lives and the example we are.
If we are going to talk about how good God is, then let's really live like that. Let's start exercising the attributes of who our Father really is. Loving, kind, merciful, gracious, just, wise, caring etc.
Make the gospel available, challenge others, keep the door open, be a great example, and watch people follow you in :)
Happy Tuesday!
1/28/13
Living
No individual has any right to come into the world and go out of it without leaving behind distinct and legitimate reasons for having passed through it - George Washington Carver
I don't care how much you feel or say things like - that's not for me or someone else is better at that or it's not something I can do or it's not my calling or I'm not as brave as he or she is or if I just stay in the back, no one will notice.
Everyone has in them the desire to do something, no matter how big or small. And everyone has the ability to make some kind of impact on people they come in contact with. Whatever it is, it's something. If its a negative impact, of course you need to work on that :)
But life and living is day to day; Sunday through Saturday; sunrise to sunset; 365 days a year; 24 hours a day; no matter who you are, this stays the same for everyone. What happens in between is what counts! Make it worth it!
Happy Monday!
I don't care how much you feel or say things like - that's not for me or someone else is better at that or it's not something I can do or it's not my calling or I'm not as brave as he or she is or if I just stay in the back, no one will notice.
Everyone has in them the desire to do something, no matter how big or small. And everyone has the ability to make some kind of impact on people they come in contact with. Whatever it is, it's something. If its a negative impact, of course you need to work on that :)
But life and living is day to day; Sunday through Saturday; sunrise to sunset; 365 days a year; 24 hours a day; no matter who you are, this stays the same for everyone. What happens in between is what counts! Make it worth it!
Happy Monday!
1/27/13
Disappointment
Don't let life discourage you; everyone who got where they are had to begin where they were ~ Richard L. Evans
Don't beat yourself up if things don't work out.....everything usually doesn't work out the first time around. The key is getting back up and trying again.
Everyone has to experience some kind of rejection or withdrawal before things start working out again. It's a part of life.....
If you are down due to a disappointment, get up, pick up your emotions, re-charge, get excited again and give it one more shot.... Learn to adjust...
Happy Sunday!
Don't beat yourself up if things don't work out.....everything usually doesn't work out the first time around. The key is getting back up and trying again.
Everyone has to experience some kind of rejection or withdrawal before things start working out again. It's a part of life.....
If you are down due to a disappointment, get up, pick up your emotions, re-charge, get excited again and give it one more shot.... Learn to adjust...
Happy Sunday!
1/26/13
Listen
I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I'm not sure that you realize that what you heard is not what I meant - Robert McCloskey
Isn't it always safer to clarify what you think someone is saying? And for you to ask the listener what you think they heard you say...
Saves the drama, misunderstanding and confusion .....
Happy Saturday!
Isn't it always safer to clarify what you think someone is saying? And for you to ask the listener what you think they heard you say...
Saves the drama, misunderstanding and confusion .....
Happy Saturday!
1/25/13
Success
The secret to my success is that I bit off more than I could chew and chewed as fast as I could — Paul Hogan
When you make a decision to step out and do something you want to achieve, check your mph (miles per hour) because depending on your speed, it could be a really fast, hard and lonely hit to the floor!
Now, if you do land hard, you have got to know how to get up and slow down as you adjust. Surround yourself with people that not only can but will give you good and Godly counsel. You are going to need it!
Happy Friday folks! Be good out there :)
When you make a decision to step out and do something you want to achieve, check your mph (miles per hour) because depending on your speed, it could be a really fast, hard and lonely hit to the floor!
Now, if you do land hard, you have got to know how to get up and slow down as you adjust. Surround yourself with people that not only can but will give you good and Godly counsel. You are going to need it!
Happy Friday folks! Be good out there :)
1/24/13
Gain
It’s not that I’m so smart,
it’s just that I stay with problems longer - Albert Einstein
Don't be so quick to quit; don't walk away; don't give up yet; don't throw in the towel....
When dealing with challenges and obstacles, patience isn't the only factor you are faced with; you are also tested on how much experience you will gain from that moment. If you walk away before it even starts, you will leave that moment with more negative emotions than you came in with.
But if you relax, hang in, stay the course, fight through the moment; you will gain knowledge, wisdom, intellect, and all the other positive emotions that it brings!
Happy Thursday!
it’s just that I stay with problems longer - Albert Einstein
Don't be so quick to quit; don't walk away; don't give up yet; don't throw in the towel....
When dealing with challenges and obstacles, patience isn't the only factor you are faced with; you are also tested on how much experience you will gain from that moment. If you walk away before it even starts, you will leave that moment with more negative emotions than you came in with.
But if you relax, hang in, stay the course, fight through the moment; you will gain knowledge, wisdom, intellect, and all the other positive emotions that it brings!
Happy Thursday!
1/22/13
Plan
Today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday - Proverbs quotes
Worrying doesn't got us anywhere but stressed out! Each day certainly arrives with its own package. What we do with and about it is what is important.
Definitely think about tomorrow and plan today's doings to support tomorrow's journey. But don't spend all today's precious time in depression; not knowing what you'll do when tomorrow comes. Today misses your attention too!
Happy Tuesday!
Worrying doesn't got us anywhere but stressed out! Each day certainly arrives with its own package. What we do with and about it is what is important.
Definitely think about tomorrow and plan today's doings to support tomorrow's journey. But don't spend all today's precious time in depression; not knowing what you'll do when tomorrow comes. Today misses your attention too!
Happy Tuesday!
1/21/13
Destiny
It was my Mum who got me into singing properly - she knew I had to do something with my voice because she knew I was talented. She was the one who pushed me into joining a choir all those years ago, when I was about 12. I remember she told me to start with the choir and just see where it took me - Susan Boyle
It's pretty much the little steps that get you to the big ones. Nothing well earned or deserved is given to you free of charge. You've got to put in the work...
What's even better is when someone that knows the potential in you helps propel you into your passion and hence your destiny.
Don't take these two for granted.... Hard work and a helping hand.
Happy MLK Jr Day!
It's pretty much the little steps that get you to the big ones. Nothing well earned or deserved is given to you free of charge. You've got to put in the work...
What's even better is when someone that knows the potential in you helps propel you into your passion and hence your destiny.
Don't take these two for granted.... Hard work and a helping hand.
Happy MLK Jr Day!
1/20/13
Opinions
I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it - Voltaire
You will always have people who may respect you but could really care less about how you feel about anything. Or you might be that person who doesn't really care for others' opinions.
Well, you don't have to like what people have to say BUT it is their right to and their opinion counts just the same.
It's our human right to allow people the space to express themselves. You just never know what you can gain from them, if you never let them talk. And you don't want to create a culture about you that cultivates fear, anxiety or discomfort.
People need to be comfortable at all times, being free.
Happy Sunday!
You will always have people who may respect you but could really care less about how you feel about anything. Or you might be that person who doesn't really care for others' opinions.
Well, you don't have to like what people have to say BUT it is their right to and their opinion counts just the same.
It's our human right to allow people the space to express themselves. You just never know what you can gain from them, if you never let them talk. And you don't want to create a culture about you that cultivates fear, anxiety or discomfort.
People need to be comfortable at all times, being free.
Happy Sunday!
1/19/13
You, again
No man, for any considerable period, can wear one face to himself, and another to the multitude, without finally getting bewildered as to which may be true - Nathaniel Hawthorne
I can imagine how eventually, it can get confusing for some that are professional at being someone else every single time. Not only is it exhausting for the people around you that try to keep up; but it's also emotionally draining as well, because on any given day, they are not sure who they are going to meet.
I personally think (I have friends like this) that people pretend to be someone else based on who they are around and the reputation they want to maintain within those relationships. It's a sad combination of masking the real person inside for fear of being discovered; and having a very low self- confidence.
One day, you will find yourself defenseless and you'll have a hard time acting.
If you are this type of person, I suggest you give it up, quit playing games with yourself, stop creating these multiple lives and just be you.
Happy Saturday!
I can imagine how eventually, it can get confusing for some that are professional at being someone else every single time. Not only is it exhausting for the people around you that try to keep up; but it's also emotionally draining as well, because on any given day, they are not sure who they are going to meet.
I personally think (I have friends like this) that people pretend to be someone else based on who they are around and the reputation they want to maintain within those relationships. It's a sad combination of masking the real person inside for fear of being discovered; and having a very low self- confidence.
One day, you will find yourself defenseless and you'll have a hard time acting.
If you are this type of person, I suggest you give it up, quit playing games with yourself, stop creating these multiple lives and just be you.
Happy Saturday!
1/18/13
Live
Everyone has a story, make your own worth telling - Patrick Ricketts
Years from now when you are remembered, hopefully you are not thought of as someone else.
We've heard the saying "if you are running around being someone else, who is being you?".
Each one of us are created unique and especially different. You cannot afford to allow fear of failure hold you back from expressing who you are made to be.
Embrace you, be that, please God, live, be bold and let every critic watch you excel! Make every story count! Make your life worth it!
Happy Friday :)
Years from now when you are remembered, hopefully you are not thought of as someone else.
We've heard the saying "if you are running around being someone else, who is being you?".
Each one of us are created unique and especially different. You cannot afford to allow fear of failure hold you back from expressing who you are made to be.
Embrace you, be that, please God, live, be bold and let every critic watch you excel! Make every story count! Make your life worth it!
Happy Friday :)
1/17/13
Respect
If you put a small value upon yourself, rest assured that the world would not raise your price." - author unknown.
Having a self esteem is very important, as it determines how you express yourself. Now, the volume of how much of a self esteem you have is much more important because it portrays your emotions either positively or negatively.
But, it's not enough to just say how you see yourself; it's all about how you express it, and how you allow others to handle you.
People will only do what you allow them to do. And they should also not do what you don't appreciate. But it's your job to hold the world to the standard of your worth! Remember, you lead and we follow; therefore, lead with self-respect!
Happy Thursday!
Having a self esteem is very important, as it determines how you express yourself. Now, the volume of how much of a self esteem you have is much more important because it portrays your emotions either positively or negatively.
But, it's not enough to just say how you see yourself; it's all about how you express it, and how you allow others to handle you.
People will only do what you allow them to do. And they should also not do what you don't appreciate. But it's your job to hold the world to the standard of your worth! Remember, you lead and we follow; therefore, lead with self-respect!
Happy Thursday!
1/16/13
Live
Courage is about doing what you're afraid to do. There can be no courage unless you're scared - Eddie Rickenbacker
Ever felt passionate, nervous, certain and scared about something all at the same time?
That's what dreaming and pursuing your dreams can feel like to some. Know that none of those feelings are bad; they are completely normal.
The hardest part is stepping out in faith and just doing it. But you'll find that once you do, it'll pay off. Those feelings may still be there to some degree but at least you are now in front of the line: no more dreaming....and off to living out the dream.
Have a great Wednesday!
Ever felt passionate, nervous, certain and scared about something all at the same time?
That's what dreaming and pursuing your dreams can feel like to some. Know that none of those feelings are bad; they are completely normal.
The hardest part is stepping out in faith and just doing it. But you'll find that once you do, it'll pay off. Those feelings may still be there to some degree but at least you are now in front of the line: no more dreaming....and off to living out the dream.
Have a great Wednesday!
1/15/13
More than enough
Believe, when you are most unhappy, that there is something for you to do in the world. So long as you can sweeten another's pain, life is not in vain - Helen Keller
It's at the moments that you don't "feel" like it that God plants you where you are needed. Where you can be a blessing to someone else even if you don't think you have what it takes.
I will like to encourage you to trust God and trust those moments; because it's amazing how much of an impact it makes and what the ripple effect brings too!
You are much more than you think you are.... Be bold about it!
Happy Tuesday!
It's at the moments that you don't "feel" like it that God plants you where you are needed. Where you can be a blessing to someone else even if you don't think you have what it takes.
I will like to encourage you to trust God and trust those moments; because it's amazing how much of an impact it makes and what the ripple effect brings too!
You are much more than you think you are.... Be bold about it!
Happy Tuesday!
1/14/13
Dreaming???
You can't build a reputation on what you are going to do - Henry Ford
It's time to start doing what we are going to do. Time to be who we are supposed to be.
No more excuses on how hard it is in making it work. Or how expensive it's going to get. Or how unworthy you are of such a task. No more!
Figure out what you are going to do, narrow down your thoughts, plan out your strategy, get out of "dream/vision" state of mind and get it done!
Happy Monday!
It's time to start doing what we are going to do. Time to be who we are supposed to be.
No more excuses on how hard it is in making it work. Or how expensive it's going to get. Or how unworthy you are of such a task. No more!
Figure out what you are going to do, narrow down your thoughts, plan out your strategy, get out of "dream/vision" state of mind and get it done!
Happy Monday!
1/13/13
Listen
I remind myself every morning: Nothing I say this day will teach me anything. So if I'm going to learn, I must do it by listening - Larry King
Learning to stay quiet takes practice. It's not something that comes naturally for some of us; it's truly not a common trait. But it is something that is needed a lot; that is, if we want to be successful in coordinating people's emotions with their actions.
Talking to or at people doesn't really solve anything. It could actually escalate their emotional state for the worse and nothing would be accomplished, as a result.
Learn to listen and things could and would get resolved faster.
Learning to stay quiet takes practice. It's not something that comes naturally for some of us; it's truly not a common trait. But it is something that is needed a lot; that is, if we want to be successful in coordinating people's emotions with their actions.
Talking to or at people doesn't really solve anything. It could actually escalate their emotional state for the worse and nothing would be accomplished, as a result.
Learn to listen and things could and would get resolved faster.
1/12/13
Selfless
Believe that there's light at the end of the tunnel. Believe that you might be that light for someone else - Yamada
There are some people in this life that need you as a friend, need your counsel, need your help or need your expertise.
It's your job to be selfless, available and open to others and their needs.
You'll find that as you open yourself to others, you'll make things available for you too.
Happy Saturday!
There are some people in this life that need you as a friend, need your counsel, need your help or need your expertise.
It's your job to be selfless, available and open to others and their needs.
You'll find that as you open yourself to others, you'll make things available for you too.
Happy Saturday!
1/11/13
Respect
A man who cannot respect a woman is not a real man. Any man who thinks a woman is either a sex object or a baby factory is low self-esteemed, disrespectful to women including his mother, and shouldn't be with you!
A real good man helps his woman to bring out the best in her life and not diminish or oppress her. He helps her fulfill her dreams and doesn't persuade her to give it up for his own.
Ladies, recognize who you are in God! You should never live up to a man's standard.... Man didn't create you, God did!
Quit mistreating yourself by allowing the "fool" to treat you how he wants to.
Get a grip, pick up your things, and if you can ...today... Walk away from all the foolishness and put the value back on you.
You, yes you, are absolutely worth it!
Happy Friday!
A real good man helps his woman to bring out the best in her life and not diminish or oppress her. He helps her fulfill her dreams and doesn't persuade her to give it up for his own.
Ladies, recognize who you are in God! You should never live up to a man's standard.... Man didn't create you, God did!
Quit mistreating yourself by allowing the "fool" to treat you how he wants to.
Get a grip, pick up your things, and if you can ...today... Walk away from all the foolishness and put the value back on you.
You, yes you, are absolutely worth it!
Happy Friday!
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