Day

Make the best of your day but be sure your best is aligned with God's best for you.

Don't settle for less than you deserve 

Moving forward

When we make a decision to follow God and His way, there are certain things that we HAVE HAVE HAVE to move away from.  These are usually things in the past that may have manifested itself into things in the future. They could be insecurities, bad habits, compromise etc or whatever it is for you.

When we pray for God to be present and move in our hearts, we have to be prepared for what He is saying. We have a habit to secretly steer Him towards our own feelings and way; because we want the outcome to be what we want it to be and then we interpret our actions as God's will. Not so ;(

We have to change our prayer - and start seeking God for His way, His direction, His will AND then prepare to change.....

Be humble

1 Peter 5:6 KJV

"Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time:"

Being humble = servitude, selflessness, submission, non-complaining spirit, gratitude, thankfulness, sincere focus and motivation, prayer, compassion etc...

Are you up to it?? 

Help!!!

It's always difficult trying to get someone out of a tough situation.  You try and try and then you try again with your very best, and things still stay the same or at least they seem that way.

The first thing is they have to realize the problem and then they must want to change. If they do not want to change, then for you it'll be as "leading a horse to the water". You can get the horse there but you can't make them drink. 

BUT you can pray for them :) - this is the easy part! 

Outlook

Nine people were discussing a business problem. The challenge they were facing was not there fault; it was circumstances beyond their control that resulted in this problem. But the problem needed to be resolved. 

The problem was identified, and they were discussing what they were going to do about it. "What will we do," asked one of them. One person immediately said, "There is nothing we can do." That response was unacceptable to the rest of the group and acted as a spark of action. "Yes, there is something we can do!" replied two of them in unison. It was at that point that their minds started to work on coming up with solutions. And, a solution they did find!

We are all faced with challenges at some point in our lives, challenges that we did not create. Challenges that happened beyond our control. The difference is how we respond to these challenges; and what determines our outlook.

Christmas

A very Merry Christmas Day to you Righteous Woman!!!

Be safe, enjoy the family, celebrate The Lord and always remember the reason for the season and why we honor it so.....

Values

Life's up and downs provide windows of opportunity to determine your values and goals. Think of using all obstacles as stepping stones to build the life you want - Marsha Sinetar 

If your morals and values are strong, grounded and deep, you'll move along ok. It won't be easy but it'll be worth it in the end. 

What Is Your Love Language?

Practically Speaking (using a love language): 

Words of affirmation: In the holiday spirit, write a letter to a close friend or family member who you are not able to keep up with as much anymore. Remind him or her of the qualities that made your relationship dear. Fill them in on how your life is going, and request that they do the same for you. 

Acts of service: If someone close to you hasn't wrapped gifts yet, offer to assist him or her in the process. Not only will it be fun to spend time together, but your assistance will be appreciated, especially if his or her love language is Acts of Service.

Receiving gifts: Choose a gift for each of your children that they may open the morning of Christmas Eve. This will help them cope with their bubbling anticipation and let them enjoy a small part of Christmas early.

Quality time: If possible, try to have Christmas dinner with more than your immediate family this year. This will allow you and the others you eat with to enjoy not only a special dinner but also to interact with people who you may not normally be able to converse with meaningfully. 

Obedience, another act of worship

Good article on obedience

From Genesis to Revelation, the Bible has a lot to say about obedience. In the story of the Ten Commandments, we see how important the concept of obedience is to God. Deuteronomy 11:26–28 sums it up like this: "Obey and you will be blessed. Disobey and you will be cursed."

In the New Testament, we learn through the example of Jesus Christ that believers are called to a life of obedience.

While the Bible places strong emphasis on obedience, it's important to remember that believers are not justified (made righteous) by our obedience. Salvation is a free gift of God, and we can do nothing to merit it.

True Christian obedience flows from a heart of gratitude for the grace we have received from The Lord.

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Every moment, every chance, every challenge, every test, every day is another opportunity to try being obedient again. It gets easier and becomes much more natural 

My God has been and is STILL good

Just thinking of all the obstacles that I, my family and friends have come through and how God has been with us all of the way.

Sometimes we get caught up on what's happening now and we get forgetful and blind to the fact that the same God we are crying to now for help is the same God that has worked in major ways in our lives and has always been faithful. Never late, always on time. 

Praise and thanksgiving can actually bring us through our tough times .... Try it!!! 

Commitment

Commitment is an act, not a word - Jean-Paul Sartre

Commitment is like faith. Unless you are willing to put some work into it, your word is dead. 

Without commitment, you cannot have depth or volume in anything, whether it's in a relationship, being involved in a business or taking up a hobby. 

Some of us choose not to commit, so the chance of withdrawing from something is open and the reason to hesitate is a near option. 

You cannot be partially or fully committed to a person or anything until your efforts are made obvious, visible and measurable. 

It's just the way it is.... 

Rest

Sometimes, we feel at war with ourselves. We take ourselves into an inner dialogue that can be overly energetic, and extremely cruel to our emotions, and very unsettling to our minds. 

We feel a lack of stillness, and we get very restless. In moments like these, the best remedy for internal conflict is simply reminding ourselves about peace. God's peace....and how it passes all understanding. 

God's peace brings calm to our storm and rest to our souls. Allow Him to take your burden on; because His burden is light and His yolk is easy. Rest in His love. 

Happy Sunday!!!

Approach

O come, let us sing unto the Lord : let us make a joyful noise to the rock of our salvation. Let us come before his presence with thanksgiving, and make a joyful noise unto him with psalms - psa.95.1

We have different reasons and times that we pray. Some of us call on God when we are in trouble; some of us when we have a need; some of us when we have no other way out; and some of us when we have exhausted all our options. 

Whatever your method is, try something different this time around. Try going to God with thanksgiving: thanking Him for the things He has done for you and the people around you, for the life He has given you, and for the grace He has extended to you. 

Change your approach and watch what happens 

Approach

O come, let us sing unto the Lord : let us make a joyful noise to the rock of our salvation. Let us come before his presence with thanksgiving, and make a joyful noise unto him with psalms - psa.95.1

We have different reasons and times that we pray. Some of us call on God when we are in trouble; some of us when we have a need; some of us when we have no other way out; and some of us when we have exhausted all our options. 

Whatever your method is, try something different this time around. Try going to God with thanksgiving: thanking Him for the things He has done for you and the people around you, for the life He has given you, and for the grace He has extended to you. 

Change your approach and watch what happens 

Following His lead

Teach me to do thy will; for thou art my God: thy spirit is good; lead me into the land of uprightness.

http://bible.com/1/psa.143.10.kjv

Time

Personal growth and maturity is a part of life. 

All through life, we deal with a variety of physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual changes. These changes make life difficult.

Time is your life story’s ultimate challenge - one you cannot defeat. However it is the time remaining that offers the greatest promise for us all. 

It is what you do with the time that you have and the people you love and care for that matters most 

Value

“The woman who does not value herself, cannot value anything or anyone.”― Ayn Rand (revised)

What you give out, comes from what you have on the inside. What is on the inside is as a result of the experiences you had from the outside world. 

In all of life's ups and downs that we face, if none of them add value to us, then we certainly can be faced with the dilemma of appreciating anything else around us. Remember, you can only show what you know. 

If this is something that you recognize in your life and you struggle with, the best way to overcome it is to seek God and know His value of you. Know your worth in God and it'll guide you through seeing the goodness in others. 

Be good

And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him - col.3.17

For everything or anything you do for anyone, never do it with the condition of "getting something in return" or in the spirit of "keeping up with your good works". Be good, because it is the right thing to do. Be good because God requires that. Be good because someone else needs it. 

A woman's strength

Article..... (Please read) 

The strength of a woman is carrying the burden of family without the expectation that someone will feel her pain or cry her tears.

The strength of a woman is the first one to wake up and the last to go to bed.

The strength of a woman is to pretty and doll up all the masks she has to wear in order to survive.

The strength of a woman is crying herself to sleep at night then embracing you in the morning with a hug and a smile.

The strength of a woman is like my mother: a woman who says she’s okay when you can tell she’s in pain, a woman who smiles when the going gets tough and a woman who finds laughter after crying.

The strength of a woman is to raise a child she does not know.

The strength of a woman hears a child’s cry and knows exactly what they want.

The strength of a woman is courage and independence.

The strength of a woman is doing whatever it takes to survive.

The strength of a woman is the backbone that holds everyone together
. . . behind every strong man there is a strong woman.

The strength of a woman is her ability
to hold her tongue when her significant other is wrong; to stop her children from misbehaving with a look in her eye; to pick herself up and dust herself off
to make her family smile in the midst of a storm; to multi-task and adapt to different situations; and to swallow her pride.

The strength of a woman is her unconditional love for her children and others.

The strength of a woman is to be a peacemaker.

The strength of a woman is to be able to feel things no one else can.

The strength of a woman is to be able.

The strength of a woman is having faith in God, for she knows God always has her back.

Helping others when they are in need,
always there to take the lead. Suffering hard times not for long, because her will is very strong.

Makes you happy with lots of jokes,
most importantly they are jokes of hope.

Her colors are beautiful—scarlet red—
lots of blessings upon her head.

The strength of a woman we’ll always know, because her strength will always show.

On the day of thanksgiving ....

Shared by another "righteous woman" (thanks Carla C) - Happy Thanksgiving everyone! 

"When we fail to thank God for the great things He has done in our lives, the Bible says, "our minds are darkened to the truth." 

On the other hand, gratitude is the most effective way to deepen our heart and mind to the fact that we are the object of God's unconditional love. Gratitude helps us to honor God as God. It gets us up in the morning with praise on our lips. It awakens our senses to see the fingerprint of God in our lives. It helps you to get through the day no matter how you feel. It ushers you right into the very presence of God. Who would have ever thought a simple thank you would have the power to go so far? This morning, let's practice our attitude of gratitude by giving God praise!" Bishop C. Carl Smith

"Because when they knew and recognized Him as God, they did not honor and glorify Him as God or give Him thanks. But instead they became futile and godless in their thinking [with vain imaginings, foolish reasoning, and stupid speculations] and their senseless minds were darkened." Romans 1:21 AMP

Commit already....

Commitment is the stuff character is made of; the power to change the face of things. It is the daily triumph of integrity over skepticism - Anon  Commitment is what transforms a promise into reality. It is the words that speak boldly of your intentions. And the actions which speak louder than words.  It is consciously making the time when there is none. Coming through time after time after time, and year after year after year.  When you make a commitment to a person/relationship or a person in a relationship, you are saying out loud that your heart, will, mind and emotions will choose to make an investment of your attention and energy into that relationship more profoundly because you now experience ownership of it. This is a very strong sign that you are in it for the long run....

Giving thanks again

The next time you see a report card or graded homework assignment of your child's/niece/nephew/god-child/cousin/ or friends child with high marks, congratulate them for his or her efforts. 

Not only will it provide a positive reinforcement for the value of hard work and help him or her recognize his or her intelligence; it also gives them a certain sense of peace that you see them, love them and are grateful for them too. 

Giving thanks

As we prepare to celebrate the spirit of thanksgiving this week, focus on what's really important to you. Concentrate on what matters most and spend most of your time on it. 

Be it your biological family or your adopted family; give them the time they deserve.

Let the holidays begin! 

Being grateful

In the spirit of giving thanks; think on your earlier years. 

Remember that movie or TV show that you and your sibling, parent, or best friend enjoyed watching when growing up. See if there are re-runs, or schedule a movie night on an evening to watch it with him or her. 

Afterwards, reminisce about why you enjoyed it growing up and share which parts you now enjoy more as an adult.

Most importantly, share on the memories that made those moments special.

Tis the season to be grateful... 

On our own ...

Don't give up before you try. But if you do try and it doesn't work, then it might not be worth the time.  

The biggest part is knowing when and also knowing to trust God in the midst of it all. Sometimes, we do things in life on our own and we don't pray on it or seek godly counsel about it; and so we walk through life handling it all alone and not knowing why it isn't working out the way it ought to be. 

Remember to keep God at the beginning, center and at the end of all things that concern you and He will truly guide and direct you AND if needed, will fight your battles for you.

No more lies

You can fool some of the people all of the time, and all of the people some of the time, but you can not fool all the people all the time. ~ Abraham Lincoln

It's just like how you can get away with some lies sometimes....depending on who you are lying to and about. However, at some point, not only will you not be able to keep track of your own story(ies), you'll find it difficult convincing people that have begun to put the pieces together....and they no longer add up.

Rule of thumb: just tell the truth all the time ;)

Trust

"Your reputation and integrity are everything. Follow through on what you say you’re going to do. Your credibility can only be built over time, and it is built from the history of your words and actions" - Maria Razumich-Zec

You do not need a lot of people around you to make this a true statement. Even a stranger to you can attest to this if they experience your good word, backed up with its strong action. 

People need people they can rely on and trust. 

Great stewards

Stewardship means being good managers of the resources that we have earned and that God has given us. As good stewards we know that when we choose to spend our time or money, there are always opportunities foregone. We consider our choices and we use our resources in keeping with our values and life mission.

Stewardship means that we weigh not only our own needs and desires but those of other people and future generations. We realize that none of us is a self-made person and that part of what we own is wealth that flows from others through us. We appreciate the natural resources, societal resources and financial resources that have been handed down to us by those that have gone before us and we are conscious of our own legacy and the price it carries for us to bring it to fruition. 

Great article, revised ** 

Wins

Victory is won not in miles but in inches. Win a little now, hold your ground, and later, win a little more - unknown 

You may not get all your wins in one day, one project, one conversation, one sit-down meeting..... But you could win a little ground that'll help the next time around. 

Embrace those moments and try not to get ALL you are looking for at once. Those little wins add up to a really big one someday. 

Kindness

Surprise the people around you by doing something that they'll appreciate. For example, for your parents, do all of their yard work over an extended period of time when they're not home. Don't mention it to them unless they ask you if you did it. 

Or to your married friends with kids, plan to show up and babysit for them while they get a little date away. Or for your sister or brother that is going through a hard time, give them or help them with something you know will help remove some of the pain or stress. 

These acts of kindness will show them that you deeply appreciate them.

What matters most

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the things you did. ~ Mark Twain

So few people really live life to the fullest.  We get stuck in our ways and routines and just kinda coast through life, then something major happens to us or someone we love, and we start to think, “Is this all there is for me?”  “Is this all I’m capable of?”  Why wait for that moment to wake up? Live your life awake.  Live your life to the fullest!

If you don't, you will spend your latter years regretting a life spent on unimportant things. Enjoy you life with the things and people that matter. 

Happy Friday! 

Life and it's lessons

Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens - Kahlil Gibran

Two totally different people can experience the exact same challenges in life; but could have opposite reactions as to what really happened and life for them thereafter. 

It is all about perception, how you see it (your ability to see, hear, or become aware of something through your senses) and the perspective (your own particular attitude or way of regarding something; your point of view, your frame of reference, your outlook and your interpretation)

Our life experiences teach us how to live and co-exist with others; and ultimately, we choose what life lessons we learn. Hopefully, we choose good ones ....

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Tough it out!

You can’t get much done in life if you only work on the days when you feel good - Jerry West

Those days that you don't feel like doing the work are the days that build your character and show your commitment to the work.

Without passion and/or commitment, it's easy to be unattached to what you do....and will result in no fruit. But if you set the temporary feelings aside, you can get lots done. 

Appreciate what you have

Problems in relationship occur because each person is concentrating on what is missing in the other person. – Wayne Dyer

Did you know that each time you struggle with your partner about something, you are struggling with yourself. I read somewhere that every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself. 

Why would you spend a whole lot of time pointing out weaknesses in your partner, when you could be enjoying them for who they are. 

Think about if the roles where flipped! Would you appreciate the constant bullying on your personality??  It's only fair and healthy to appreciate and praise the good in each other and pray for the not-so-good to get better :)  

Memories

We live in a world of quite a bit of self-centered and selfish people and folks who haven't learned yet to step outside of themselves and spend a little time with someone else. 

We also live in a world where people are hurting and need a little hello and encouragement, every once in a while.

Be the kind of person that never forgets to compliment your friends; because everyone needs it sometimes. Tell them how good-looking they are, how kind they are, how fun they are, how hardworking they are and watch their face light up with appreciation.

Remember, it is never what you do but how you make people feel that they will carry with them. 

Happy Friday! 

Respect

Relationships of all kinds are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold onto some of it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost.” – Author Unknown

Respect your relationships, for is how you treat others that they'll treat you.

Life

“One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure it’s worth watching.” –unknown

May all that we do add up to something meaningful. 

Leave a path so others can follow 

Life and it's meaning

Sir, a man may be so much of everything, that he is nothing of anything.  - Johnson, Samuel

It doesn't matter how busy you are; if all you are doing don't add up to something or anything meaningful, then it's all just going to pass you by AND will feel like a waste of your precious time.

It's ok to work hard; but please make the hardwork an addition to your life and it's much valued substance. 

Winner

“We are like the little branch that quivers during a storm, doubting our strength and forgetting we are the tree—deeply rooted to withstand all life’s upheavals.” - Dodinsky Author

Sometimes, we underestimate the strength we have within. God has put inside of us the kind of grip that can stand against all kinds, shapes or forms of challenges and struggles that may seem as if it can take us out... 

You are MORE than a conqueror! 

Pay it forward

“I firmly believe in small gestures: pay for their coffee, hold the door for strangers, over tip, smile or try to be kind even when you don’t feel like it, pay compliments, chase the kid’s runaway ball down the sidewalk and throw it back to him, try to be larger than you are— particularly when it’s difficult. People do notice, people appreciate. I appreciate it when it’s done to (for) me. Small gestures can be an effort, or actually go against our grain (“I’m not a big one for paying compliments…”), but the irony is that almost every time you make them, you feel better about yourself. For a moment life suddenly feels lighter, a bit more Gene Kelly dancing in the rain. - Jonathan Carroll

Happy Monday! And pay it forward today! 

Worth

“If you want to be respected, you must respect yourself.” - Spanish Proverb

It is the way you present yourself that gives others the road map to how they will treat you. 

Think about what your worth is, and let that be your blueprint. 

Pain and reaction

“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.“ - C.S. Lewis 

Depending on what kind of experience it is/was, it's only human that you would want to resolve it some way or another. 

If it was an enjoyable experience, you might be faced with wanting to fix it or see if you could make things feel differently. If it was not an experience to write home about, you might be struggling with addressing a few things... 

When it's all said and done, you are the only one left with the emotion or feeling or reaction BUT the real challenge is what you do with it and how you respond to it; because at some point in every situation, you have to let go. And as you let go and move forward, try your best NOT to take those ugly, bad, resentful feelings along with you. It just never manifests well in the future. 

Always remember to do, react and communicate what is best for your well-being... 

Persevere

“Perseverance is not a long race; it is many short races one after another.“ - Walter Elliott 

And you get through each one with the endurance you gained from the last one....

Friday!

Do the things you used to talk about doing but never did. Know when to let go and when to hold on tight. Stop rushing. Don't be intimidated to say it like it is. Stop apologizing all the time. Learn to say no, so your yes has some oomph. Spend time with the friends who lift you up, and cut loose the ones who bring you down. Stop giving your power away. Be more concerned with being interested than being interesting. Be old enough to appreciate your freedom, and young enough to enjoy it. Finally know who you are -Kristin Armstrong

HAPPY FRIDAY! 

Dream

The world is moving so fast these days that the man who says it can't be done is generally interrupted by someone doing it - Elbert Hubbard

This is true! 

When you feel the urge to do something potentially great, do it! Or you'll be working under the direction of a total stranger who has the passion that you once held dear and close ....

Do not be intimidated by the challenges that may come. With some determination, focus and hardwork....you will accomplish your dream! 

Share

If you have knowledge, let others light their candles in it - Margaret Fuller 

If you know something, share with others. Don't be afraid of being replaced at work and so you hold on to important information; don't be so low in your self confidence that you enjoy people coming to you for what they need to keep a project moving forward; don't be so proud of what you have attained that you hang on to it so much so that you are the only one who knows it ....

Being the source of information is the beginning of a progressive path for others around you and the organization or company  that you are involved in and affiliated with will only grow upward and excel better.

Team

When spider webs unite they can tie up a lion - African Proverb

It is amazing what we can accomplish if we team up with people of like minds and like visions. You may look small and not so strong but with the right focus and a plan to execute, you can move mountains! 

One more time

I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work - Thomas Edison 

It's all about knowing when to pick up the pieces and starting right back again. Many things in life require more than one trial times, but the key is not staying defeated and beaten down.

Get back up and try again :) 

Don't do it

“To carry a grudge is like being stung to death by one bee - William Walton 

If you can, talk about the issue with the offender; and then get over it. If you aren't able to discuss it, find it within yourself to get through it, so you can go on with your life in peace and freedom.

Holding on to a grudge only keeps you down and non-progressive in that particular area. And it can make you bitter in your approach in life.

It's just not worth it! 

Friendship

“We all need friends with whom we can speak of our deepest concerns, and who do not fear to speak the truth in love to us - Margaret Guenther

It's not an easy thing to find, but when you do, it's a wonderful thing to not have to walk on eggshells with a friend because you just know them well enough to know when to speak up, when to just listen, when to tell the truth and when to defend..... And vice versa 

You are

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit - Aristotle

Do not feel bad for exactly what you have become.... You worked hard for it :) 

Encouragement

“Encouragement is the oxygen of the soul - George M. Adams

Every now and then, even the toughest of them all needs a little encouragement to get through the tough times.

If you are on the other side, and in the position to recognize when encouragement is needed, never hesitate to give it ....... as one day, you too will need it also.

Repentance

A compromise is the art of dividing a cake in such a way that everyone believes he has the biggest piece.

- Ludwig Erhard

Compromise used to mean that half a loaf was better than no bread.

Among modern statesmen it really seems to mean that half a loaf;

is better than a whole loaf.

- Gilbert K. Chesterton

Compromising in the faith is a place that some of us go to because deception has crept in and succeeded in convincing us that we are either missing out on something or somehow, we can master the act of putting both feet in and out of the world and it's fleshly desires. 

Very scary because at some point, not only do you lose your witness and the salvation of sinners into the kingdom of God but also you now look just like the person next door. One can no longer tell the difference between a sanctified Christian (saved by grace) and a non-Christian (that is searching for the truth).

It's all about choices people. What decisions do we and will we make that doesn't grieve the Holy Spirit? Will you decide to be different and stand apart from the dust of sin and it's nature? When it's all said and done, which master have you really been serving? You can't serve both.....so choose this day who you will serve..

 Lord, let our lives be pleasing to you as we repent ..Amen! 

Truth or lie

"The bad stuff is always easier to believe. Ever notice that?"-Pretty Woman

I heard someone say "people will always believe a lie before they believe the truth"....why? Because gossip is better and juicier to them..

No matter how much you try to convince people of the truth, they'll always stand by the lie that they have already mentally and emotionally entertained AND accepted; so much so that the real honest truth doesn't even stand a chance.

When in situations like this, just walk away and hold on to what you know is real, and let them hold on to what they believe. The lie will circle around enough but won't have a foundation to stand. You'll see....

Get back up

“In life you are going to make mistakes, you're going to fall down, but it's the getting up that counts. 

Just like in baseball: you'll get a few hits, but most likely, you'll strike out more than you'll get on base. But don't quit. Find your focus, relax, take a deep breath and give it a good swing" 

- Dave Pelzer - A Man Called Dave 

Letting go

It's sometimes easier to hang on to things because it could be that that very something is tied to our identity; or that thing makes us happy and we can't see ourselves any other way;  or we like to be and have control, so letting go would be a weaker response.

Whether its building a project and you aren't done, letting go isn't a sign of defeat; but may help you to sit back and reevaluate. If in a relationship, and things aren't working out as planned, letting go could be a really good remedy for you, if you are willing. 

There is no reason to entertain or marinate in a bad negative situation.

Being able to know when to walk away, is a value on you that is priceless! 

Do right by you .... 

Thanks for this discussion yesterday ladies! 

Right timing

Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. Relationships must be chosen wisely. It's better to be alone than to be in bad company. There's no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you're ready, not when you're lonely.  Unknown quotes

70 up,

Good man

“Wherever you find a great man, you will find a great mother or a great wife standing behind / beside him -- or so they used to say. It would be interesting to know how many great women have had great fathers and husbands behind them.” 

― Dorothy L. Sayers

For some of us, a great father wasn't quite what we had behind or beside us; but graciously by the hand of God, we have been blessed with great husbands. 

What your earthly father didn't do, your Heavenly Father did. And what you desired in a good man, your husband has....and for my single sisters, your future husband will. 

The future looks better :) 

Determine

One of the most common causes of failure is the habit of quitting when one is overtaken by temporary defeat - Napoleon Hill

Determination is one of the keys to success. Often times, people know exactly what they need to do in order to achieve the life that they want but still aren’t able to make it happen. 

One big reason is that they give up too early. No one ever said reaching your dreams is going to be easy. In fact, it’s hard and that’s why most people fail to live the life that they want. 

Things happen; time changes things, challenges come along and people move on; but you have to set it in your heart that in times of defeat, the very determination you started with will help inspire you to get back up and push forward. 

Loneliness

Even the rich are hungry for love, for being cared for, for being wanted, for having someone to call their own.  Mother Teresa

It doesn't matter how much money or things you have or how popular you become, or how much you are in demand; if you aren't happy with your life and have a safe place to call home, you will always find your safe being lonely.

Check your priorities.... 

Relationships

How do we approach new friendships, and new relationships? 

Yesterday at "the discussion", we talked about how some people can either be a hindrance or a blessing. Let me explain. :)

For me, I find that most of the time, I am seen as a jovial, friendly, and extremely social person, which I am. But as you get to know me, I can be very serious and intentional in every idea, every conversation, every interaction. And intend to hold folks accountable to things they say and/or do (all in love, of course). Now, if the other person isn't comfortable or confident with my approach, it could really be a hindrance if they put up a wall and shut down. 

It does get challenging for me because I want to be myself and also be a friend.

What about you?

Selfless

Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something. They're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take - Anthony Robbins

Relationships is not as a bank that you run to when you need to make a quick withdrawal. Or the stashed away credit card that you pull out when needed for an emergency transaction. 

Relationships are built on how much of your love you are constantly willing to give, for the satisfaction of the other person you are involved with. If the other person is equally doing the same thing or more;  then you are well taken care of. 

But if it is one-sided....then, that's a troubling road you are traveling on. Re-evaluate....